Feeling stiff and achey is so horrible, isn’t it? When even a minor thing like sitting down or standing up, climbing the stairs, or picking up a bag of shopping, give an unwelcome reminder of the weakness and unresponsiveness of your muscles?
Perhaps it feels as though you’re getting worn out, as though doing the simplest thing is a bit of a struggle, as though you have to fight against the unreasonable unwillingness of your body to perform in the way it used to…
And when you think about how it used to be – in your twenties, or even your thirties, say – it’s all rather depressing…
Maybe you think of the stiffness as an unavoidable consequence of age.
Or as the influence of an injury you had a while ago.
Or the result of not keeping up your yoga/pilates/running as much as you used to.
But not everyone in these positions feels stiff and achey. So maybe it’s genetic?
The truth about your stiff and achey body
Most of the people I work with start by complaining of stiffness and aches, and are looking for some relief – for a return to the ease they had before the aches set in.
There are of course lots of reasons why you can start to feel stiff and achey. But by far the biggest reason, and probably the only reason which is a part of everyone’s life, is habit.
Not that it’s a habit to feel stiff and achey!
But that stiff and achey feeling develops because habits of movement create unnecessary tensions all over your muscular system. And those unnecessary tensions give rise to the stiff and achey feelings you are now suffering.
Let’s take Suzie as an example. Suzie came to me in her 40s, complaining of her stiff and achey body. She was too young and too fit, she said, to feel so uncomfortable. She’d done yoga and pilates, but neither seemed to address her discomforts for more than a couple of hours.
So we looked at Suzie’s posture and movement habits. And she soon realised that without her being aware of it, her general posture and all her movements were subject to unrecognised and unnecessary tensions that were manifesting themselves as stiffness and aches.
Sadly, this isn’t just an eccentricity of Suzie’s.
We ALL have this as part of our way of being in the world – it’s just a matter of degree, and of how all those habits and tensions show themselves to us.
But we all have the possibility of becoming aware of, and then deciding to let go of all those habits of unnecessary tension. And then we’ll be able to live and move with greater ease.
This is what Suzie did: working with me, she gradually grew in awareness of what she was doing to herself as she moved through her day, and developed the skills needed to move differently, with less tension and greater ease.
And her mid-life stiffness and aches faded away, which in turn massively brightened her mood and outlook.
What can you do now?
Suzie’s experience is encouraging, but if I were you, I’d want something I could use right now to get me started… but how to develop an awareness of what you are doing unnecessarily, when that doing is part of your whole pattern of moving around?
The best way into this is to choose an activity of your daily life – something relatively short, and easy to identify, like brushing your teeth or your hair. These are things that you almost certainly do without thinking about them.
So you need to make the decision to notice how you do your chosen activity. Often, that simple noticing, or even just asking the question, will start a change towards greater ease. And to take it a step further, you could notice whether you could hold the toothbrush, hairbrush, or steering wheel just a little less tightly (but not, in the case of the steering wheel, so as to lose control of the car! – maybe start on a straight road?).
Over to you
Let me know what you discover in the comments below – I really look forward to hearing what you find, as everyone is different!
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